Saturday, June 5, 2010

Little stitching Going on Here...

So much has been going on in my life lately I haven't had much time to stitch. My 10 year old son had been bullied at school so much that he was going through a bad bout of depression and talking about suicide. After numerous trips to the school and talking with the teachers, counselors and prinicipal, nothing was being done about it. For those that don't know, my son has Aspergers Syndrome. It's a form of autism. He's very smart, but lacks the social skills that most of us come by naturally. Anyway, the bullying had gotten to the point of my son finally fighting back and he ended up punching someone (in the arm). His teacher told him that he was going to end up in jail since he can't control himself...well, I basically lost it. I've been fighting with this particular teacher all year long and this was the final straw. At this point I had taken my son to a Dr to see what we could do for his depression and the Dr suggested he stop going to school for the rest of the year. So I pulled him out and am now homeschooling him for the remainder of the year. Best decision I ever made! He's coming out of his depression and actually went outside to play with the neighbor kids a few times.....this is something he hasn't done in over a year! (Aspies are known for not being social) He's doing fine with school work...except for math and we are working on that part. But so far so good! :)

My 8 year old has ADHD and we have chosen not to medicate him up to this point. Finally took him to the DR and put him on a low dose medication to help him concentrate at school and it seems to be working fairly well. The first few days were rocky while trying to give him the right dose, but we now have him on an extremely low dose that wears off after about 4 hours. Just enough time to get him through the school day and not have the nasty side effects. I don't know how long we'll continue with it, but we finally decided to give it a chance. I think I have more issues with this than hubby or the kids...I just don't like the idea of medicating kids like this. It really bothers me but I'll do it if it's the best thing for him right now.

Ok, on to stitching.....I pulled out my Lizzie Kate "living with charm" piece and have done another word. I love the way this one is turning out! I haven't put any charms on it yet, not quite sure if I will. I like it just fine without the charms and mom wants the charts when I finish so I may just leave it like this and let her have the charms. I'm still not sure how I want to finish it. I think a nice white 'antique-ish' frame would be pretty...but then I think it might be cute as a little wall quilt. Just can't seem to make up my mind. Any ideas???

Next is another EMS freebie. This is from the "toy book" series. I'll be doing all 12 of these ones for another quilt. We are hoping to have 8 quilts done for the girls home by November...I think we are going to make our goal or at least get pretty close.

Next is a magnet I received from Marie for a magnet exchange we did in KraftersKorner. I love it! She also sent me some candy but the kids and I ate it..hee hee.

And this is two more magnets I recieved from Vicky. ( I had 2 partners this time) She also sent me some adorable little note cards and some chocolate. Yep, you guessed it, the chocolate is gone..... :)

That's it for my little bit of stitching...not much but like I said it's been busy around here lately. We are finally moving back to Idaho! The Uhaul is reserved for June 21 and we should be out of Oregon no later than the 23rd. I'm going to miss this area a lot, it's become home over the last 9 years. I'm kind of dreading it though, we will be staying with mom for about a year so we can get our finances in order and take care of things that we just can't seem to catch up on. While mom and I have a lot in common with our love of stitching and quilting, they aren't used to having 2 rambunctious boys around all the time. It's going to be a huge adjustment for all of us and I know how tempers can flare in stressful situations so I'm a little spooked.
The good parts to it are: the boys will be going to the same elementary school that my daughter went to so at least I'll already be familiar with the school district. I was born and raised there so I know places to take the kids for outings. We have friends & family that still live in the area so we will have some kind of support system. Mom has a huge back yard with a garden so lots of room to play and tinker with growing vegetables. And it'll give the boys a chance to really get to know their Grandparents. The boys were just babies when we moved here so they haven't had the chance to spend alot of time with them. And the best part is there is lots more places to go and people to meet that have autistic kids. I'm hoping to meet a few parents and join a few support groups. There just isn't anything in this area for families like ours and hubby and I have been winging it on our own for the most part. Hopefully being around people that understand the disabilities and the things we go through on a daily basis with the boys will help us to be better parents. Anyway, I've made this short little stitching entry into a personal book..oops! Hope all of my stitchy friends are keeping those needles smoking! Hugs to all!


  1. I am so sorry to hear that your son has been bullied. I had to do the same thing for my son. He was being badly bullied by the students, the school was acting on it but it would stop for a while, then start up again. When a teacher got involved and started harassing my son, that was it. I pulled him out and have been homeschooling him since. (1.5 years so far) He is doing FANTASTIC! He is now above grade level on reading (he was below) and on grade level with math and everything else. It is fantastic. They picked on him for being really skinny, wearing glasses and loving video games/computers. He also has ADHD and I was against medicating him for a long time. When I finally gave in, he thanked me for doing it. The difference was amazing and he was able to do the school work. Prior to that they were telling me that he was mentally challenged (retarded). He wasn't, he just couldn't concentrate enough to do their tests.

    Your stitching looks great!

  2. I was afraid I would run out of room, so made two comments. Sorry if that is a problem. I just wanted you to know that I understand your decisions about homeschooling and medication for your sons. You have made the right decisions that work for your family and your children, that is all you can do.

    btw..homeschooling helped my son in the ADHD department as well because I had the flexibility to tailor work time to his ADHD (breaks between subjects to make transitioning from one to the other easier and more) and it made a major difference. He is now off the really nasty adhd meds (he hit puberty when many outgrow ADHD) and on a low dose of the non-narcotic one just for school days.

  3. Glad your son is doing better! And although it is a change and will be difficult for awhile, I think the move will be the best for you in the long haul.
    Love your stitching. I think you should make it into a wall quilt.
    Hugs Mary! I care about you so much! And want what is best for you and your family!

  4. I am going to miss you and your family Mary, I remember when you guys moved here. Amber and I were inseparable...I used to baby sit the boys when Amber had choir events. Promise to keep in touch with me, please?

  5. Oh Mary, I didn't even get to meet you and now you're leaving! Sounds like you & DH are making sound decisions. The move to ID, though sometimes stressful, should be a good one. Support from your family & familiarity will make worlds of difference. Besides, by taking your son out of the bullying situation is a win-win. You'll do well at the homeschooling. We'll keep in touch.

  6. Doesn't your son have an aid? Where was she? I hope you get it all worked out. I am getting ready to start my LK yours looks great.